Self-love is not a common behaviour for many people. Adverse Childhood Experiences where the child may have thought or perceived that their parent or parents did not love them may manifest a feeling of “I am not loveable”, “I do not matter”, “I am not important”, “I am not enough” and grow up with feelings of low self-esteem and low self-worth. The outcome of not addressing these feelings and beliefs result in poor adult relationships, not moving forward and goals are not always achieved, and the person’s full potential is never realised. In fact, many people feel “paralysed” or “stuck” in most instances of their lives.
Young adults need to feel a sense of connection and belonging to form healthy, warm, caring, and loving relationships. Youth often find themselves disconnected and feeling different. That said, issues of not feeling loved or not significant and any limiting beliefs about themselves may have carved its way into the subconscious mind and as such they may turn to addiction to help them survive.
The LOVE relationship with others
Many people find themselves questioning their relationships and soon give up on love when they believe that real proper love that is unconditional is not available to them. Or they believe they are not loveable or even worthy of being loved. In such cases many people attract partners that are also dealing with similar feelings. These relationships are often toxic and can even be abusive and cause more harm than harmony. The truth is that we all need to feel connected at some level and not having connection may lead to isolation and cause depression, anxiety, loneliness and later dis-ease.